I had the privilege of teaching on Sunday @LosAltosGrace about Resolving Conflict. That very phrase, “resolving conflict,” often makes us squirm. The challenge from Sunday was to see it as “normal” and part of life which we as believer’s in Jesus are perfectly equipped to resolve. Below is a brief outline of what we covered together:
The two key points for when we have been offended:
1) Overlook It.
“A person’s wisdom yields patience;it is to one’s glory to overlook an offense.”
Sometimes when we are hurt, we can just care for it in our own heart and mind. This isn’t advocating denial, but rather emphasizing FORGIVENESS and grace.
We reminded ourselves that forgiveness means:
- I will Not to Dwell on it
- I will Not to Bring it Up
- I will Not to Use it Against Someone
- I will Not allow it to Hinder the Relationship
Bitterness is a choice, just like forgiveness. And bitterness results from the opposite choices!
When the relationship has been significantly damaged, then reconciliation is needed. So what do I do to reconcile? We gave 4 Biblical principles:
- Glorify God – Seek first to bring Him glory, not defend yourself or prove that you are right.
- Get the Log Out of Your Own Eye
- Go and Show your Brother or Sister the fault
- Go and Be Reconciled!
Listen to the message online here: Resolving Conflict.
You can find it on iTunes here
Thanks to the influence of Ken Sande and his book the Peacemaker: